Like literally the day after I got married people have asked me how is the married life treating you? I be like, good, not because I have no interest in talking to them, but because I literally do not know what else to say. How can I have an honest evaluation of the married life one day, one week, or even one year after I’m married. Plus, I don’t like the question, how is the married life treating me? It makes it seem like being married is an experiment, and they’re wondering how the side effects are treating me.
Its like a doctor prescribing you medicine and a week later he asks, how is the medicine treating you? First of all, medicine is an experiment because different meds work for different people, and the side effects of the meds work for different people. And, I am positive that after a week of taking meds people can have an honest opinion of whether it is working for them, or whether they are experiencing side effects.
People can’t make medicine work for them. If it doesn’t work then they have to try something else point blank period. There is no compromising with medicine. You can’t take your medicine to therapy and fix it. Medicine is set in it’s ways and it will either cure you or harm you, but it will never change itself to help you.
That is why its not about how the married life is treating me but how am I treating my marriage. Marriage is cause and effect. What I put into my marriage is what I will get out of it. If I let my marriage cruise along and let come whatever may, then I’m setting it up for disaster. If I take control of my marriage and mold it into what my wife and I need it to be to be successful and happy, then it won’t be that married life is treating me well, but married life is well because I’m controlling it.
Marriage isn’t medicine, its an investment, and the most rewarding investments take years to gain something from. So, if you must ask a question now, ask me how am I treating my marriage and I can give you an honest answer.