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Should I Know What I Want?

I’m 25 years old and I think I have a good idea of what I want in my future. I already completed my Bachelors degree and I’m currently serving in the United States Army so when my contract is over I have a leg over my civilian peers in the job market. But, one thing I’m not too sure about is marriage. I have a girlfriend and we been dating for seven months now. She is 100% sure that she wants to be married and have children before she turns 30.

On the other hand, I envisioned myself being married when I’m in my mid-30s or if I never get married then I don’t see it as a big deal. My girlfriend gets excited about the idea of having children while I look at children as just a really long expensive bill. The most excitement I get out of thinking about children is that I get to create a person that resembles me and the person I choose to be with, but that excitement only last for the first few years of the child’s life. By the time your child turns 13 they no longer look like an innocent you, but whatever trend or popular celebrity during their generation.

I see many of my peers getting married and most of them are my age or younger. I mean if they found the love of their life then so be it, but I also feel like they’re missing out on fully learning themselves and what they want from other people by getting married so young. I’m not saying that 20-somethings should be single just to sleep around and party all the time. I believe I passed that phase because I had plenty of times to party and date during my college years.

I also know that being single during my college years gave me the best time to learn myself and what I want out of life. Although, I am still learning myself and will continue to learn about myself whether I marry or stay single because as humans we constantly change our attitudes, personalities, wants and needs. Right now I feel like I want a relationship but I don’t know if I want kids later down the road and I know if I marry my girlfriend then she will definitely want children.

Cameron Armstrong graduated from the University of Tennessee at Chattanooga with a B.A. in English: Writing and a minor in Womens Studies. He created ArmstrongTimes to express his opinion on Relationships, Social Issues, and Spirituality.

1 comment on “Should I Know What I Want?

  1. Wouldn’t it be less harmful to her to end your relationship then? If you marry her and decide you don’t wanticipate children won’t that leave her even more heartbroken than you leaving her now before she completely losses her heart to you?


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